Saturday, March 28, 2009


How to Spot a Con Man


This is the first and foremost thing to look out for. A compliment is normal. Flattery is not.

Whenever somebody flatters you, watch the wallet. Flattery is normally a prelude to an unusual or out-of-the-ordinary request.

The psychology works like this:

Flattery makes you feel all puffed up and great about yourself. But this is a set up so you'll agree more easily to whatever request comes next.

You are more likely to make a bad decision when you are feeling overconfident. Flattery is an easy way to build your confidence.m
Flattery such as.."you are definately a very bright girl if you don't qualify for those useless public university.

"…a flattering mouth works ruin." Proverbs 26:28


A person who brags is not necessarily a con man; he could just be insecure.

It's the type of bragging that matters.

Some people brag about how good they are at a specific skill. This is your garden variety braggart, relatively harmless.

Others brag about their good character or how much money they give to their church, poor people, etc. This is your con man variety of braggart.

It is designed to get you to lower your guard… to get you thinking about what a good person it is you're dealing with. Next thing you know, the con-man lowers the boom.

Watch out for people who brag about their good character. People who brag about their non Existent Education qualifications fall into this category. Why would someone claim to have gone to CAMBRIDGE University when they didn't?

"But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, so that your giving may be in secret." Matthew 6:3,4

Unrealistic Promises

A common negotiating tactic is to build neediness in the other party.

For instance, a certain man might tell you that there's  a possibility of getting a masters degree in 9 months fast track even though you don't have a first degree. He's building your confidence to the point where you believe this future pay-off will really happen.

The next thing he'll do is ask you to work for 9 months and submit a thesis to him so he can send it to a UK university. If you believe the vision he's painted, you might agree to unreasonable terms, work hard for months… and get a useless degree in a very short time.

"Like clouds and wind without rain is a man who boasts of gifts he does not give." Proverbs 25:14

Safeguard Yourself

A con man uses all kinds of techniques to build your confidence in yourself and in him. Once your confidence is high enough, you're in a vulnerable position. That's how you get conned.

Ask yourself: "Am I feeling overly confident? Why?"

Ask yourself: "Why is this person flattering me? Why is he telling me all about his good deeds? Why is he promising me a huge pay-off somewhere down the road?"


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